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I haven’t written in awhile so here goes…. Screen Shot 2014-05-19 at 12.54.30 AM

When you’re with someone you learn how they are and try and tailor your actions to coincide with their nature. But what about when it clashes with your nature…compatibility may be the most underrated, overlooked and integral relationship quality.

There’s a naturalness that we all have…that we embody if you will. It’s the way you are unhampered and unhinged. Its the you that IS. That is without the pressures, impressions, and demands that people put on you. This is especially true in a relationship. The word “compromise” gets thrown around. But what I’ve come to find is that your natural nature can’t be compromised. Don’t get me wrong with “nature”. I’m not saying go fuck everyone. I’m talking about personality traits. Impregnable traits that no matter how much you try to engage in opposite action those proclivities are still there. No matter how friendly these lions and tigers are with these weird ass white guys who wrestle and play with them are…..its in their nature to bite the shit out of you. And those natural things come up to the surface. Our may not be as ferocious but could definitely be just as damaging.

Its hard for me as a Christian to point at the zodiac but I must say its the easiest and most recognizable way to get this point across. Let’s say you have a person that’s highly practical. A pragmatist…..a thinker. They take facts pull them together, parallel them, come to a conclusion, test their theory, and then come to an ultimate conclusion. Then you have an emotional person. A person that’s more passionate and surface oriented. They see things on a very plain level (which can be a great gift). Thinking can be paralytic and overused just as emotion can be fleeting. Neither is bad! Anyway…when the thinker has issues that they’ve come to via deep thinking it may be hard to articulate to the person who’s more of an emotion driven person to understand beyond how you’re currently making them feel. For them an issue brings for emotion (ie: anger, sadness, whatever whatever). This in turn seems like an attack. The think is just trying to explain how and why he’s come to this notion. It doesn’t work. There’s a stalemate. Beyond that the two find that many issue arise because the thinker looks too deep into emotional issues and the passionate person doesn’t look deep enough. With this lack of compatibility it could cause for huge problems. When the issues cease to be talked about resentment happens. People go and find people to talk to that are more suited to connect to their puzzle piece. Their concave to your convex. Typically this is where things start to sour. But there’s never that conversation at the beginning where these things are notice. It’s probably because in the beginning compromise is pushed through the machine of intrigue, admiration, and lust. But once those initial feelings and urges dissipate the natural you comes along. So in hindsight you have to ask yourself does the naturalness of you fit with the naturalness of them. This seems to be why so many marriages end in divorce. And personally I believe its would be over 50% if more people had the heart or mind to leave. Many people aren’t divorced for whatever reason but hate their spouse. They don’t naturally mesh and they found out after 2 kids, a house, and a dog. The very interesting thing to me is that most people know but are in denial. You understand that this person’s traits are something you have a hard time handling. BUT time is wasting. You’re tired of being alone. You’re bad ass fuckin kids need a male role model or whatever BS you tell yourself. So you get married. He really can’t stand you but the hoes at the club are paying him less and less mind. His metabolism is slowing…..he’s getting fat. Might as well take what I’ve got and run with it. And then somewhere down the line the shit implode. You forced pieces together that just don’t naturally fit together. You bent that edge to fit your groove but it causes him daily pain. He’d rather talk to a puzzle piece where he can fit painlessly. Love is an interesting thing. It can easily skip the whole compatibility part. You can fall in love with who you’ve forced someone to compromise themselves to be. But the natural them is going to come out after a while. Often times when both sides tend to point at each other and not realize things about themselves it’s because the sides both don’t  how the way they naturally are is wrong. And both side are right in believing in their naturalness. It’s just that they have to come to a place where they realize that both of their rights aren’t right for each other. Give and take can only work when both sides have an understanding and aren’t losing who they naturally are. Should I compromise by cutting off the edge of my puzzle piece to fit next to yours? Why would you even want to make someone do that? Love can be selfish. It’s just easy to avoid these things when take into account personality traits in the beginning.

Stop forcing shit. You  know when you’re doing it. I can be hard to disengage especially when love is laid. Time has passed. You’re getting older. Loneliness is looming. But the end down the line is worse.

That’s all I got for you folks.

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IDLTS: Nicki Minaj Edition

#speechless DROP DEAD GORGEOUS!

First of this isn’t about liking Nicki Minaj as a rapper, cause I think she’s pretty tough for a female. Maybe even better than Kimberly Denise Jones in her prime. But his is about her overall aura. *turns on Nikki Pt. 2 by The-Dream (No relation just my shit. Click it to listen!)* Let me give you a bit of history on Nicki before I get into my grippe with her. Nicki Minaj’s government name is Onika Tanya Maraj. Onika, which i think is a pretty sexy name, is from Queens and is of black, Trinidadian, and Indonesian decent, hence the eyes. By the way, even though she’s Indonesian, the Harajuki district is in Japan. But it’s her gimmick not mine so who’s to judge. But anyway she got discovered of MySpace and through several blowjobs got hooked up with Wayne. The rest is Barbie history……     

 Lucky for Onika she came out at the perfect time. Kim was out becoming Asian, Eve was focusing on acting, and Inga lost her hearing…so enter Nicki, it doesn’t hurt being with Dwayne either. Apart from her come up Nick Minaj is a pretty strong lyricist. She packs a big bite and is intelligent enough to string witty, sexual, rapid fire rhymes. Explore:      

 I done came up in it a little bit self-centered, but did I kill  a Queen/
Alexander McQueen’s got a wrist on glow, the bottles is on po’/
Got that shimmy shimmy yeah shimmy yeah ya!
What the fuck I look like bitch I run this town/
I ain’t coming out for less than a 100 thou’/
Man, the last time I checked I was bubbling out/
Got to turn down shows, out in Dublin now.
Wait, wait hold on, maybe they didn’t get that here/
Like 11 hundred horses when I switch that gear,
Swerve on them sorta like I missed that deer/
Press that little button on the sit back chair!
Bitch I do it cause I get it/
I got billion dollar credit,
if you got a million dollars you could put it up and bet it/
I just be like “Hello, hello!” but I never could salute them,
Young money I do it for the youth dem!
     

  Fire, wordplay, intelligence! And herein lies my problem: THE GIMMICK IS TOO DAMN MUCH! With that skill you mask it in all that bullshit. The biggest and worst part is that dumb ass voice that she throws on in the midst of some pretty good lyrics. It’s so anti-climactic and for a nigga like I, if I was out with her and all a sudden she just popped her eyes out and started yelling, I’d call the exorcist. When you have that much skill I don’t see the advantage in doing that shit. A friend of mine’s guilty pleasure is “Your Love” so I downloaded it (cause I don’t listen to the radio, at all) and it doesn’t sound bad, well apart from the chorus and the sample of “No More I Love You’s” by Annie Lennox. It made me like her more. With verses like: “Anyway I think I met him sometime before/In a different life or where I recall/I mean he was Adam, I think I was Eve/But my vision ends with the apple on the tree/’S’ on my chest cuz I’m ready to save him/ Ready to get buck on anybody that plays him/ And I think I love him, I love him just like I raised him/ When he call me mama, lil mama, I call him baby/” whats not to like. I mean that’s a little softer but the lyrics is still present. Also her singing isn’t that bad and she sing on that track with auto-tune assistance. I think she should sing a little bit more, like she does on the Wayne Rebirth track “Knockout”. Even though the cut is kind of cheeks she shines in sing the chorus until she steps out of Nicki and goes Barbie with: “Then hit him below the belt i wanna give him good top, TOP! TOP…blah blah blah” She needs to learn when to tone it the fuck down sheesh! Next is the fact that she never really reveals her body and  not that she has to, but it matches her lyrics and persona and moreover she wears costumes that tease it. Let me get this out of the way, fake or not, HER ASS AND BOOBS ARE HUGE. Let’s get a little sexier Nicki! #imjustsaying. I saw her with Young Money on MTV’s Springbreak special fuckery and she had on full neck to ankle body thing on. You’re killing me Nicki! Entrance me! Finally, the damn hair and costumes. The pink, red, blue, green, rainbow, fuchsia, electric beige! Keep it Revlon, blonde, brown, black! And then the dominatrix leather all the time. Don’t get me wrong some of its sexy but most of it is haughtily extra. EXTRA IS NOT SEXY (see below). I’ve seen her look so gorgeous when just being regular. She’s already mixed with a super body made of plastic, why not just be that. You look good, you spit good, and you can make a song, eff the rest. In DJ Khaled’s “All I Do is Win (Remix)” video she looks too good amidst all the faux thugs rapping.     

    Dear Nicki, keep the regular hair and some sexy clothes. Drop crazed voice and rap and sing. You made it baby, you can drop the gimmick now. I want to like you, but for now I cant. I hate to do this but for now I’m going to have to hit you with the Bighead Rico and say “I DON’T LIKE THAT SHIT, MMM MM, I DON’T LIKE THAT SHIT!”                            

“I DON’T LIKE THAT SHIT, MMM MM, I DON’T LIKE THAT SHIT!”

   

SEXY!!!

   

NOT sexy!!!

         

Nikki @ 2:40

“I Don’t Like That Shit”: Nigger Bait

I’m creating a new segment entitled “I Don’t Like That Shit”. Now when you say it you have to say it like Tyrin Turner in Belly while he eats his banana. This segment is inspired by my pet peeves and all the thing I simply disdain. So here goes the first IDLTS:

I can’t stand the fact that thy have commercials geared towards black people that always seem to have rapping and dancing in them. You’ve seen the commercials, most of them are McDonalds commercials. Its as if all we know how to do is rap and ball. Its the marketing tool they use to bait the African American demographic. You scarely see the African-American CEO on a McDonalds Frappe commercial, you see the nigga at the club wanting McDonalds because they stay up late. A bunch of jiggaboos and minstrels rapping and dancing around to a Big Mac on a turntable. Or Drake’s bitchass in the booth drinkin a Sprite when his ass know he only drinks expressos! Boost mobile’s whole marketing campaign was geared towards urban markets with the tagline “Where you at???” #epicfail…like I said, “I Don’t Like That Shit”